Power Is Not a Performance

For decades, high-achieving women have been applauded for being strong, resilient, and driven. Yet, quietly punished for being too much: too assertive, too visible, too emotional.

At Kinship, we believe rest isn’t a luxury — it’s leadership. We dream of a world where women no longer fracture themselves to be taken seriously. A world where intuition is not silenced, softness is not sacrificed, and authority doesn’t require armour.

Somewhere along the line, performance replaced presence. We started wearing confidence like a costume ticking every box, yet hiding.

We’ve learned how to hold it all: careers, families, communities, identities. But rarely are we asked:

What if success didn’t require self-abandonment? 

What if power wasn’t something you performed but something you embodied?

This is the invitation of the Rest Revolution Sessions: a radical reimagining of leadership rooted in wholeness, not hustle, not survival, not performance.

Because the truth is, most of us were taught how to over-function, not how to lead from our fullness. We know how to shape-shift, to lead in crisis, to survive but we’re rarely taught how to be.

That’s the soul of my conversation with Nicholè McGill-Higgins. Her wisdom disrupts the belief that power is inherited from patriarchal systems. She reminds us: Listen Here

‘Real authority begins when you come home to yourself — your voice, your body, your truth’

Mistress Energy: Power Without Permission

Nicholè’s story is bold and layered, from corporate coach to professionally trained dominatrix and phone sex operator. And, it’s from this unlikely path that she developed a liberatory framework:
Channel Your Inner Mistress™

Mistress Energy isn’t just about sensuality, it’s about sovereignty. 

It belongs in boardrooms, on keynote stages, in community rooms. It’s not performance. It’s presence. Because the future of leadership isn’t more grind, it’s more grounding.

Not more strategy — more spirit.
Not more perfection — more pleasure.

You don’t have to choose between power and softness. You just have to stop pretending and start remembering.

Mistress Energy shows up in women who rest without guilt, who lead with clarity, who speak truth into rooms unprepared to hold it and do so with grace.

This isn’t ego. It’s embodiment. And in a world that teaches women to shrink, taking up space is sacred.

Nicholè often says:

“You can’t lead others in their truth while hiding from your own.”

Presence Without Apology

Presence without apology means showing up not to prove your worth, but to embody it. When we stop shrinking to fit the room, we expand it for ourselves and those who follow.

We are not invisible. The world has simply trained itself to look past us unless we conform to what it can manage.

For Black women in leadership, this double-bind of being both hyper-visible and unheard is exhausting. We’re expected to lead but not too boldly. To speak, but not too loudly.

So we edit. We sharpen. We perform. But, the revolution begins when we reclaim our essence. The voice once called too much was never too much. It was clear. It was powerful. It is divine.

Your voice, your story, your being are already enough.
You were never too much.
You were always more than ready.

So ask yourself:

Are you performing your power?
Or are you ready to Channel Her?

Embodied Power in Boardrooms and Beyond

If you’ve ever felt like your confidence is real but exhausting…
If your ambition no longer feels aligned…
If you’re holding it all but wondering what’s holding you…

This is your call to shift. Because power doesn’t live in the performance. It lives in your presence.

When Nicholè speaks of Mistress Energy, she’s not talking about dominance over others — but mastery of self.

It’s knowing who you are.
It’s owning your space.
It’s no longer seeking permission to exist boldly.

It’s power that doesn’t apologise.
A voice that doesn’t tremble.
A presence that doesn’t flinch.

We’ve been conditioned to lead like men, to suppress everything that makes us magnetic. Our intuition, our emotions, our embodied wisdom. But rehearsed confidence is not rooted confidence.

Nicholè’s earliest training in power came not in boardrooms, but behind a headset as a dominatrix and phone sex operator. There, she studied desire, voice, presence, and human behaviour. Not through theory, but lived experience. She learned that true influence is not commanded, it’s embodied.

And, when she stepped into coaching and corporate spaces, she found the same dynamics playing out: women performing strength, but rarely feeling safe in their power.

She saw what was missing: integration

Channel Your Inner Mistress™ isn’t about putting on a persona it’s about taking off the mask.

It starts with presence, the energy that enters the room before you say a word
Then comes voice, not just articulation, but the unapologetic frequency of your truth
Finally, sensual command not sexuality, but aliveness. A reawakening of your body, your pleasure, your intuition.

Nichole’s journey from taboo to transformation is a living reminder:
Embodied power heals.
Embodied power liberates.
Embodied power lasts.

Because Mistress Energy isn’t a costume. It’s a coming home.